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How to Approach Women Online

January 13th, 2010

Do it right the first time!

Learn how to approach women online:

There are some mistakes a lot of men make when they are approaching women online. These mistakes are easy to fix, as long as you keep in mind a few things.How to Approach Women Online

Step 1 – How to Approach Women Online

First of all, put yourself in her shoes for a moment. If she’s half decent looking, she has probably gotten about 10 emails already, just today. Women are flooded with email on dating sites, that’s a fact you’ll have to take into consideration. Don’t make the mistake of hurrying through the writing part so you wouldn’t waste too much time on a lost cause and ask her to do the work for them by adding to the end: “Tell me what you want to know!” If you don’t know what is interesting about you, she’s not going to spend time helping you to find out. You are not her only option. (Little information is not intriguing or mysterious. It’s just little information.)

Step 2 – How to Approach Women Online

Read her profile before emailing her. That is another thing that is considered a time waster by most men, and then they make the second mistake: They approach someone who will not be interested in them in any circumstance. Most women have a very clear understanding of what they are looking for, and they do share it on their profile. You just have to read it and find out.

Step 3 – How to Approach Women Online

When you write that first email, MAKE SURE she knows you have read her profile and that you are interested in HER, not just any skirt out there. Not just say “I liked your profile” but pick out something that she says in it that you find interesting and comment on it. Personalise. Do not copy paste an earlier email you have composed to someone else or as a generic email. At least have the courtesy of re-editing it for this girl specifically. If nothing else, this will get you a reply.

Step 4 – How to Approach Women Online

More important than telling her what you are like, is to let her know why you found her interesting. This will also reveal things about yourself, but it saves you the trouble of trying to think of great things to say about yourself.

Step 5 – How to Approach Women Online

Never ever include a photo of your genitalia in your profile or your email. Even if you were out to find a casual partner, this will not make her want you, it makes her delete your email even if she was after a casual partner too!

Step 6 – How to Approach Women Online

Include your photo. Not having a photo is usually a sign that the man is either horribly ugly or married (or in a relationship). Neither one is a good thing. Even if you think you are unattractive, it’s better to have them see your photo now than have them running screaming away from you on the first date.

Step 7 – How to Approach Women Online

Don’t lie. Don’t embellish the truth.